Divorce pending, 52 y/o, and skirting right up against the menopause fulcrum, and I’m having the best sex of my life. It’s a real thing! Thank you for sharing your words and your wisdom.
Oh and I have been seeing a pelvic floor PT for years (about 30 years overdue) - has helped me tremendously to heal from interpersonal sexual trauma, societal sexual trauma, as well as the trauma of birthing babies.
I love to hear that!! 💜 I don't know of a single person who has tried it who hasn't found it helpful! While I don't see physical therapy school in my future, I am trying to use my platform as a yoga practitioner to help people heal their pelvic floors (which, obviously, cannot be healed in isolation from the rest of our emotional and fascial bodies). In some ways, that work--raising awareness of even the *need, in the first place, of healing, let alone challenging the typical ways western medicine would like us to deal with it--feels almost dharma-like, although I've never said that aloud until just now. So, thank you for giving me the space to realize it here, more or less publicly!
I fucking love you; you are THE DISRUPTOR, inspiring me all the time to find more and more innovative, heart-spirit-body-aligned ways to disrupt. Also, a couple years ago you shared some products for dry parts and so when my menopausal lady-parts smell like roses, I think of you. :) (And, thank you Snow Lotus Essential Oils). Also, please keep talking about all the sex/menopause/erotic and magic things - say all the things - I/we need it. There is so much TRUTH in this newsletter (both this specific one and all that you write) and it's just a huge relief. Thank you thank you thank you.
My partner and I have both just finished reading “Flash Count Diary” by Darcey Steinke, which certainly earns its subtitle: “Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life.” Great read for allowing menopause to be what is happening rather than a set of symptoms to medicalize. Very glad to read your post today. And the opening collage was gorgeous!
As an almost 53 y/o, it is so refreshing to be reminded that the changes I am experiencing with menopause are not a problem. There is nothing inherently wrong! It is a natural, developmental part of this human life. Not that the symptoms are not unpleasant many times, but still knowing my body is changing in ways that, if I tune in, can guide me in caring for myself and thriving. It helps to counter all the negative feedback and conditioning from the broader culture. So much gratitude 🙏💜
Aug 19, 2023·edited Aug 19, 2023Liked by Sebene Selassie
Hi! Thank you for this post, and all the others. Once I fully (and finally, btw, perimenopause lasted YEARS for me!) entered Menopause,I realized how my “fertility”, beginning at 14, had unconsciously directed so many of my decisions and directions in life. Free of the free fall of hormonal changes, I was/am more like the 11 year old girl I used to be, who has become the symbol of one of my best selves. And btw, I loved the Magic Post and have shared with some friends, so you may get some new subscribers from it after all ;)
Sebene, I’m loving this journey with you through your posts. All topics welcome. Much gratitude to you for your honesty, fierceness, curiosity and grace - shared with us all. 🧡
Thank you for opening the conversation here about menopause, pleasure, and sex! What a welcome invitation to break open the silence on this raucous lion-y new moon. Blessings.
Thank you for your transparency around menopause and sexuality. Just like motherhood, where I pushed through any discomforts so I could *show up for my children and partner. My first years of menopause and with a new partner, I just drank a lot of wine and fanned myself through the hot flashes and sleepless nights and memory loss. After I got sober so many things changed. And now at 66 it's finally dawning on me; maybe it's not that my libido is waning but that other things are calling me of greater import. And although an orgasm can be glorious there are so many ways to access and enter ones own and anthers erotic. (thank you Audre Lorde). I Loved your last post on magic; curious why folks left. The more I naturally move away from the dualities and polarities that are pushed at us on a daily basis the more I hunger for reflections such as yours out in this crazy world. Thank you!
I put on the Theta Waves playlist you shared in your last Quarter Connections while I watched the planetary orbits.🤌🏼 Fantastic! Thank you for sharing.
This comes a little late for me at 80, but I wish I'd read it sooner. The other topic in today's column, colonial Hawaii, speaks more loudly to me. I've never been there, but I did attend high school with one of Queen Liliuokalani's descendants, a stunning girl who looked like no one else in our class. It's clear we've trampled paradise there, and the residents are suffering terribly. Speaking of which, perhaps, you've noticed that your piece about suffering from Belonging is excerpted in today's Tricycle. Still beautiful, still rings true. Your courage inspires me.
Thank you for sharing all this. And, maybe, never too late? My friend’s 85 year old mom just started dating a lovely man and is in love for the first time in decades!! GOALS! Much love to you! 💕💕💕
People are forcing me to label my experience as peri menopause but I am resisting! I am 49 year old and still am regular. I don’t have a sex drive because who has time for that? I’m the primary caregiver of my husband whose cancer treatment or lack of treatment, mismanagement & may I say neglect, negligence abuse. I can’t even begin to describe how horrific and traumatic his last.. our last because I was there 17 hours a day... hospital stay. It was 19 days much of which was spent at the mercy of medical professionals with too much ego and not enough compassion, ones who are prescribing medications they don’t truly understand. The amazing ones are so overworked, short staffed & are yelled at if they take care of their own needs and sometimes the needs of their patients.
I’m too raw to share more... but your cosmic connection helps me remember I am not truly alone no matter how isolated, abandoned, or betrayed I feel.
Much gratitude to you always from this Leo soul sister 🙏🏼♌️🦄
Thank you for sharing Jen and I am sending you so much love and good energy. You’re dealing with so much and I hope you’re finding ways to nurture some pleasure and care for yourself in all that you’re doing as a caregiver. ! 💕💜💕
Your honest post on Magic led me to subscribe. Thank you for sharing your magic, magic, magic!
Lose some. Win even better ones!! 💕😂💕
Divorce pending, 52 y/o, and skirting right up against the menopause fulcrum, and I’m having the best sex of my life. It’s a real thing! Thank you for sharing your words and your wisdom.
Love this Francesca!! YAAS!! 💕💕💕
Oh and I have been seeing a pelvic floor PT for years (about 30 years overdue) - has helped me tremendously to heal from interpersonal sexual trauma, societal sexual trauma, as well as the trauma of birthing babies.
Pelvic floor therapy has changed my life!! 💕🙌🏾💕
I love to hear that!! 💜 I don't know of a single person who has tried it who hasn't found it helpful! While I don't see physical therapy school in my future, I am trying to use my platform as a yoga practitioner to help people heal their pelvic floors (which, obviously, cannot be healed in isolation from the rest of our emotional and fascial bodies). In some ways, that work--raising awareness of even the *need, in the first place, of healing, let alone challenging the typical ways western medicine would like us to deal with it--feels almost dharma-like, although I've never said that aloud until just now. So, thank you for giving me the space to realize it here, more or less publicly!
💕🙌🏾💕
I fucking love you; you are THE DISRUPTOR, inspiring me all the time to find more and more innovative, heart-spirit-body-aligned ways to disrupt. Also, a couple years ago you shared some products for dry parts and so when my menopausal lady-parts smell like roses, I think of you. :) (And, thank you Snow Lotus Essential Oils). Also, please keep talking about all the sex/menopause/erotic and magic things - say all the things - I/we need it. There is so much TRUTH in this newsletter (both this specific one and all that you write) and it's just a huge relief. Thank you thank you thank you.
Awwwww. Thank you Elena. That means a lot! 💕🙏🏾💕
My partner and I have both just finished reading “Flash Count Diary” by Darcey Steinke, which certainly earns its subtitle: “Menopause and the Vindication of Natural Life.” Great read for allowing menopause to be what is happening rather than a set of symptoms to medicalize. Very glad to read your post today. And the opening collage was gorgeous!
Thanks for the recommendation David. Sounds really interesting!! And thanks for the kind words! xox
As an almost 53 y/o, it is so refreshing to be reminded that the changes I am experiencing with menopause are not a problem. There is nothing inherently wrong! It is a natural, developmental part of this human life. Not that the symptoms are not unpleasant many times, but still knowing my body is changing in ways that, if I tune in, can guide me in caring for myself and thriving. It helps to counter all the negative feedback and conditioning from the broader culture. So much gratitude 🙏💜
Thanks for sharing this Ann. It feels good to know it resonates! xox
Hi! Thank you for this post, and all the others. Once I fully (and finally, btw, perimenopause lasted YEARS for me!) entered Menopause,I realized how my “fertility”, beginning at 14, had unconsciously directed so many of my decisions and directions in life. Free of the free fall of hormonal changes, I was/am more like the 11 year old girl I used to be, who has become the symbol of one of my best selves. And btw, I loved the Magic Post and have shared with some friends, so you may get some new subscribers from it after all ;)
Thanks Erin. I really feel this!! YES!
Sebene, I’m loving this journey with you through your posts. All topics welcome. Much gratitude to you for your honesty, fierceness, curiosity and grace - shared with us all. 🧡
Thank you Karlene! 💕🙏🏾💕
Full Moon Magic I really enjoyed and now Menopause bring it on….Full Throttle!😊🥴🙏🏻💓
💕🥵☀️💜
Thank you for opening the conversation here about menopause, pleasure, and sex! What a welcome invitation to break open the silence on this raucous lion-y new moon. Blessings.
Disruption!! 🦁 ⚡️ 🌚
Screw the unsubscribers! I love all of your posts (especially when you mention magic!).
Thank you. I’m actually grateful to them for reminding me what I need to continue to align to!! 💕🙏🏾💕
Thank you for your transparency around menopause and sexuality. Just like motherhood, where I pushed through any discomforts so I could *show up for my children and partner. My first years of menopause and with a new partner, I just drank a lot of wine and fanned myself through the hot flashes and sleepless nights and memory loss. After I got sober so many things changed. And now at 66 it's finally dawning on me; maybe it's not that my libido is waning but that other things are calling me of greater import. And although an orgasm can be glorious there are so many ways to access and enter ones own and anthers erotic. (thank you Audre Lorde). I Loved your last post on magic; curious why folks left. The more I naturally move away from the dualities and polarities that are pushed at us on a daily basis the more I hunger for reflections such as yours out in this crazy world. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this Mary! I love the idea of really listening to what’s calling now... what a beautiful life practice at any age!! 💕🤗💕
I put on the Theta Waves playlist you shared in your last Quarter Connections while I watched the planetary orbits.🤌🏼 Fantastic! Thank you for sharing.
Love it! Yes! 🙌🏾
Love 💜🙏
💕💕💕
This comes a little late for me at 80, but I wish I'd read it sooner. The other topic in today's column, colonial Hawaii, speaks more loudly to me. I've never been there, but I did attend high school with one of Queen Liliuokalani's descendants, a stunning girl who looked like no one else in our class. It's clear we've trampled paradise there, and the residents are suffering terribly. Speaking of which, perhaps, you've noticed that your piece about suffering from Belonging is excerpted in today's Tricycle. Still beautiful, still rings true. Your courage inspires me.
Thank you for sharing all this. And, maybe, never too late? My friend’s 85 year old mom just started dating a lovely man and is in love for the first time in decades!! GOALS! Much love to you! 💕💕💕
People are forcing me to label my experience as peri menopause but I am resisting! I am 49 year old and still am regular. I don’t have a sex drive because who has time for that? I’m the primary caregiver of my husband whose cancer treatment or lack of treatment, mismanagement & may I say neglect, negligence abuse. I can’t even begin to describe how horrific and traumatic his last.. our last because I was there 17 hours a day... hospital stay. It was 19 days much of which was spent at the mercy of medical professionals with too much ego and not enough compassion, ones who are prescribing medications they don’t truly understand. The amazing ones are so overworked, short staffed & are yelled at if they take care of their own needs and sometimes the needs of their patients.
I’m too raw to share more... but your cosmic connection helps me remember I am not truly alone no matter how isolated, abandoned, or betrayed I feel.
Much gratitude to you always from this Leo soul sister 🙏🏼♌️🦄
Thank you for sharing Jen and I am sending you so much love and good energy. You’re dealing with so much and I hope you’re finding ways to nurture some pleasure and care for yourself in all that you’re doing as a caregiver. ! 💕💜💕
Can i have more info about the course you start in oct?
More info will be in the August 30th newsletter. 💕